Tuesday, 27 January 2015

When Your Angel Becomes A Stranger

I garden for a lovely elderly couple (I won`t use their names) who are both well into their 80’s. Up until just recently have had a happy and full life together. However now “Mrs X” is beginning to show more and more signs of dementia, so much so she has had tests and on Monday they went for the results. 

As “Mr X” was telling me this, there was one song playing unstoppably in my head, a song that already holds personal memories of when my closest relative life was irreversibly changed by illness the drugs used to treat her.

Here are some of the songs words In Blue and my interruption of them in this case.
And yes I believe in what we had  (60 odd years together)
But words got in the way (The dementia)
And only yesterday, As I was leaving (To take you to the medical centre)
But I`ve Heard a million conversations Going where they've been before
(Repeating things)
And all I know for sure, All I know for real, Is knowing doesn't mean so much
(It been diagnosed doesn`t make any difference)

And I know the world is cold but if you hold on tight to what you find  (I`ll look after you)
You might not mind too much though
Even this must pass away and
Memories may last for years but
Names are just for souvenirs
(Reinstating his unconditional love for her regardless of this)

In the final verse of the song, the addressee changes from “Angel” to “Some kind of Stranger”


  1. I love that song and think of it in a very different way. Thanks for sharing this. Tragically sad but also beautiful.

    1. A great song always means different things to different people. I hope I have not spoiled your memories that the song brings.

    2. Of course not... I love multiple readings.

  2. That is also one of my favourite SOM songs, and in this context becomes even sadder. Poor people. Dementia is one of the cruellest illnesses I have witnessed.


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